ALL things for good


How is everyone?

Looks like the unavoidable countdown to Christmas has begun. Although I do believe some of my Facebook friends have been counting down since somewhere around April (dramatic eyeroll).

So what I’m going to write about today I know I’ve mentioned before, but it’s so good I think it’s worth giving it another rattle. So hang in there.

For the past few years I’ve read a little advent devotional in the countdown to Christmas; it’s called Joy to the World, by the wonderful preacher Charles Spurgeon. As if I wasn’t already a super fan, I came across this wee gem on kindle a few years back and it just shone a whole new light on the birth of our King and Saviour. Although it was taken from sermons in the 1850’s, thankfully the language has been updated for the modern reader.

As much as I don’t want to bore you all with my book recommendations every blog, I do recommend this book.

For this blog I’m going to skip to day 6 INVISIBLE STRINGS; it still leaves me in the same awe as the first time I read it.

I don’t think there is any point in me paraphrasing a legend, so here is the the reading

In those days a decree went out from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be registered. This was the first registration when Quirinius was governor of Syria. And all went to be registered, each to his own town. And Joseph also went up from Galilee, from the town of Nazareth, to Judea, to the city of David, which is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and lineage of David, to be registered with Mary, his betrothed, who was with child.

(Luke 2:1-5 ESV)

[It had been prophesied] that our Lord [would spring] out of Judah. It was necessary, also, that he should be born in Bethlehem, according to the word of the Lord which he spoke by his servant Micah.[13] But how could a public recognition of the lineage of an obscure carpenter and an unknown maiden be procured? What interest could the keepers of registers be supposed to take in two such humble persons? As for the second matter, Mary lived at Nazareth in Galilee, and there seemed every probability that the birth would take place there; indeed, the period of her delivery was so near that, unless absolutely compelled, she would not be likely to undertake a long and tedious journey to the southern province of Judea. How are these two matters to be arranged? A little tyrant, Herod, by some show of independent spirit, offends the greater tyrant, Augustus. Augustus informs him that he shall no longer treat him as a friend, but as a vassal. Although Herod makes the most abject submission, and his friends at the Roman court intercede for him, Augustus, to show his displeasure, orders a census to be taken of all the Jewish people, in readiness for taxation, which, however, was not carried out till some ten years after. Even the winds and waves are not more fickle than a tyrant’s will; but the Ruler of tempests knows how to rule the perverse spirits of princes. The Lord our God has a bit for the wildest war horse, and a hook for the most terrible leviathan. Autocratical Caesars are but puppets moved with invisible strings, mere drudges to the King of kings.[14]


Did you love it??? God basically used the baddies to work his GOOD plan to bring our Saviour into the world. Not only did he use them, they actually played a vital role in it.

This so much makes me think of the verse in Romans 8 which I’ll quote often on the worst days, as I try to lift myself out of whatever hellish circumstantial sadness I’m experiencing.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:28‬ ‭NIV‬‬

So I guess what I wanted to say today, which will hopefully bring a little hope to a situation, is don’t underestimate how God is using the baddie in your story to bring his good plan together.

Perhaps you have a challenging work situation, a mean ex or a difficult family member.

I’m not saying tolerate bad behaviour, absolutely NOT, nor am I saying that you have to love your current situation. But what I would say is that in this story of Christ’s birth, Mary was obedient, she trusted God’s plan and she honoured God. And I believe in your current “difficult” situation, if you cling onto God, pray, honour him in the way you conduct yourself, stay obedient to his directions, I’m certain that before long you will see his hand in the situation.

I stand on personal conviction to this. I’ve had circumstances and situations I’ve begged God, please get me out of this… not fix this, just get me out of this. One in particular was a very long and hard road and, from the beginning of the difficult process, God told me he wanted me to do everything with integrity. Along the way it would have been easy to do some underhanded, shady stuff in retaliation to some particularly awful behaviour. My name was dragged through the mud in many ways. Only by God’s strength, still I clung onto God’s request to be a woman of integrity, and I’m glad I did. I saw God’s glory manifest powerfully in that situation.

Another less serious situation, I had pretty much thought I could see a handy way out of and God kept asking me to honour him and the situation to the end. I did, and at the final hour he flipped that situation on its head in the most surprising way.

So I encourage you, pray and listen to God’s direction and ACT on it, even if it feels like it’s not going to solve your problem. All you need to do is leave the problem with God to sort and just keep being obedient while you wait. You just dont know God is working all things for good.

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.”
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭50:20‬ ‭NIV‬‬


Regret me not!!

Hey all, back for another rattle this week.

I have been doing a lot of thinking in the area of regret this week; this was all triggered by reading a novel called the Midnight Library by a very talented author called Matt Haig.

After reading a lot of Christian books recently back to back, I thought I would mix it up a little with a novel, like a little reading holiday.

But before I go on to talk about the Midnight Library, can I just give a shout out to a book I finished last week that was so good for me to read. I just know it will be a go to book for a long time.

The Book is God on Mute by Pete Greig. Such a truly gifted and anointed writer, who bravely addresses the subject of unanswered prayer through the transparency of his own life and his many trials and traumas.

I’m not sure I know one person that wouldn’t benefit from reading this book, and the newly revised 2020 edition has a 40 day devotional included as an added bonus. I highly recommend this book, to the point I’m sure my friends are a bit tired listening about it, but seriously, it’s a great investment.

So back to the novel that was intended to be a little bit of light reading for down time and ended up activating a week of deep thinking and soul searching, much praying, and repentance, lol. So maybe I’ll just stick to the Christian books, ha ha!

Would I recommend this book? I’m honestly not sure. There is no doubt it is a masterpiece of creativity; it touches on some real life issues such as depression and suicide and addressing regret, so I think it was good, but at the same time, it doesn’t quite align with any biblical teaching. although It did contain some profound truths, so as long as you are not pulled into some new belief, I think it’s a good read.

I don’t think I should lay out the plot, to avoid any spoilers, but what I can tell you is, when all her odds are down, the main character, Nora, decided suicide is her only option, but before passing on to death she is taken to the Midnight Library. and there she visits her other parallel lives, addressing the many regrets “she thought” she had that ultimately lead to the decision to overdose.

Like I said before, the novel led me to think A LOT about the many regrets I have accumulated. I have years, both of things I’ve done and things I wish I’d done. It made me think of what my life might look like had I made different choices.. it was a rabbit hole. There were things I could hand on heart say, I’m thankful for that, even though it was tough or sad or bad. Sadly, there were a lot of things that came to mind that I really truly wished I had done, and I thought about what difference it would have made to my life now. And, like I said, it was a rabbit hole. I had to take a lot of stuff to God, some unforgiveness had to be addressed, others matters I had to repent for. I’m still working on some bumpy bits in my heart, but by Saturday, siting writing this, I can say hand on heart, I am thankful for the process of regret. I’m thankful for the decisions, good and bad, and well, while I acknowledge my life could be miles better, after some dodgeball decisions, it could also be a heck of a lot worse than my current situation.

I’m so thankful for God’s amazing saving grace that brought me this far and I’m also excited for the plans he has infront of me.

So this week, I just wanted to say, unless you are super human, or perhaps a little narcissistic, I’m betting that you have had some regret to deal with in your life. While, yes there may well be natural, unavoidable consequences of our bad decisions, the real beauty of the cross and being a child of God lies with Jesus dying on the cross to give us that ultimate midnight library.

On accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour, the Bible tells us that we are a new creation, that our sins are forgiven and we have been given a new life. This is the good news, our second chance, the opportunity and right to reside with God for eternity. Not only all the good stuff for our time after the grave, but now for here living on earth, we have been gifted with a new chance to live a life full of joy and peace and love and happiness.

Sadly, for a lot of people, even Christians, they believe that their mistakes disqualify them from God’s redemptive grace, when the Bible clearly instructs us that is not the case. In fact, we have been given a written manual of God’s word, his commands and boundaries to keep us safe, and the more we follow these instructions the less we are going to have to deal with regret.

This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” 2 Corinthians 5:17 NLT

The Bible tells us that there is no mistake too big that God can’t forgive, the Bible tells us that the enemy or any force in hell does not have the power to keep us from God’s love. However, the truth is we stop ourselves from embracing it and recieving it because we believe our mistakes are too big for God, lack of belief or the enormity of God’s power and forgiveness.

Believe me when I say I could write my regrets down starting now, and this time next week I would still not be done. When God took up residence in my heart, things changed. By the grace of God, I was able to address bad decisions. I was given the chance to make some right, I was taught how to deal with and accept the ones I could not change. I don’t have the same urgency to race into things, those decisions that lead to those awful, regretful mistakes. My heart has been transformed from a heart full of regret and despair and hopelessness to one of forgiveness, hope and excitement for the future.

Do I get it all right?.. Heck no!

Do I still make mistakes?.. sometimes, though less frequently now.

Do I live a life shrouded with depression, bitterness, guilt & regret?… not anymore.

He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name.” Psalms 23:3 NLT

That’s thanks to the overwhelming love and power of the blood of Jesus. To know that my past does NOT define who I am. God does, and he has a lot to say on the matter. Knowing he has perfect plans laid out for my future, despite what mistakes I make, God has a plan and purpose for my life.

I stress to you, as someone who knows what it is to live a life of excessive amounts of regret, from someone who has buried her shame and regrets deep and dark inside, scared the real me would be exposed and nobody would want to know me… which was quite the opposite…. I urge you, shed some light on it, that burden you carry!

“So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1 NLT

Talk to God about it. Pray about it. Repent. Lay it at the cross.

Start living the life God intended for you to live and enjoy. A life filled with hope and promise, a life of truth and joy and love, a life with the great majestic overwhelming love of Christ.

You know, if you believe as much as Jesus hung on that cross, and you continue to cling on and carry this shame and guilt and regret, basically Jesus hung there for nothing.

“If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Romans 10:9 NLT

And that would be a real shame, because it’s a lie, Jesus hung there for our freedom So go claim it today, without delay. Lay your burdens down, claim your freedom in Christ our King. Perhaps you can’t change the past, but you can chose to change holding onto mistakes that will affect your future.

“No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,” Philippians 3:13 NLT

Positive FAIL

Hello, how is everyone doing?… hope you are all well.

It’s a little ironic that last week I post a blog telling you all of my prayers for my work and performance and on Monday, I woke with what can only be described as THE WORST head cold I have ever experienced. The sinus congestion was brutal, the intense headache behind my eyes had me in bed for almost two full days. I also managed to smit my youngest, Joshua, then had to watch him suffer for the following two days. So for anyone who has caught this particular strain of the cold, you have my most sincere sympathy.

However, bugs and germ are not what I’m talking about today. It actually is bit of a cheese ball analogy, but as I cringe a little telling you this story, I am certain it is the most obvious God-given lesson I can tell you all about this week, so bear with me because it actually ends up being quite powerful, and some serious questions came from it.

On Friday evening, I had my car MOT test; for those of you not from UK, it is simply a vehicle test to examine the car and declare it safe for road use. It looks at things like lights and windscreen, seatbelts, horn, looks at your wheels and brakes and a few other bits.

In preparation for this test, I did very little. I had got a crack on my windscreen a few weeks back and it had to be replaced and I got three new tyres an hour before the test. The guy in the tyre garage asked, do you want me to check your lights? When I asked how much extra it would be, he said not much. The reply I distinctively remember saying, was that it’s not worth failing the test over the lights, so go for it!!

Well, I’m guessing you probably guess by now where this is going. YES indeed I did FAIL the test and you guessed it… on the light alignment.

Now I promise you the next thirty minutes after my test can only be described as UGLY. The guy at the test centre hot footed it away from me because, he probably thought my look was going to kill him stone dead. (great way to testify, Terrence) All grace and coolness leaving me about the situation, and feeling an intense rage starting to build inside, I got in my car, slammed the door closed much harder than I needed to and zoomed off. I ranted and I raged to myself the whole way home, absoultly furious at the outcome of the test. The lovely guy who fitting my tyre probaly got cursed in and out of hell more than once. I was so cross, to be honest, I was abnormally cross at one stage. I had to stop and spoke out loud and said, RIGHT TERRI, that’s enough, pull it together, it could be a lot worse, it’s only a light alignment, probably a two minute job, not a three hundred pound part.

The area of dealing with disappointment and things not going my way, I had given a lot of attention in recent years. Even more so in recent months, I have with God’s help worked hard on how I process and react when things don’t go according to the Terri plan.

To the point, that I have little to no reaction at all sometimes besides an internal heart sigh, so when I say the rant that was going on was extreme, I really mean it. I had one of these explosions a few months ago, and I was so ashamed of my action, I promised I would get a real handle on this. But here I was again exploding, only this time, it wasn’t my feelings hurt. I knew my purse had got off lightly. Besides the inconvenience of the retest, things really were ok.

Asking myself what was causing this, why did I feel disappointed, I was really coming up with nothing other than the fact that God didn’t give me some divine favour in my test. I know, I also LOL to this. I’m semi joking, but half, not because that it is very much the temptation when things go wrong to assume God’s favour or presence has fallen away and you have been left to your own devices, or that the car machanic or tester are working in allegiance with the enemy.

I really do have an active imagination! Yes, an awareness of warfare is essential, but sometimes we can give the enemy way too much credit.

I found myself still muttering on about this stupid light alignment the next day, on and on I replayed this phrase light alignment, swimming around in my head, hating even the sound on my tongue. I prayed and quickly asked God why I was struggling to let go of the annoyance this caused. My reply came quickly.. why is alignment so important Terri? BOOM!!! Is it possible God allowed me to hang on to my irritation a little longer than necessary to minister to me on an area of my faith.. 100% possibility, felt like a very Jesus type thing to do!

He now had my attention and I was ready for the little heart training ahead, and it’s very simple really.

Why is light alignment so important ??

According to the car blog I googled, correct light alignment is very important, especially in the DARK winter nights, because if your lights are not aligned properly it can cause you to A) not see the road ahead properly, B) blind other road users, C) other road users and pedestrians may NOT be aware of your presence..

Why is it so important our lives align with God’s Heart?

A) We can’t see the road ahead properly, only when we are living connected to God and invested in reading his word and knowing his character, only then can we truly see the path he is laying out before us.

B) We can blind other road users… absolutely if our lives are not properly aligned with Christ, we can easily lead other Christians to veer off the path in the wrong direction, blind or confuse them with our ways, our contorted beliefs, thinking or behaviour.

C) We don’t make others aware of our presence. When we do not have our hearts aligned properly with God, the simple thing is people may not KNOW we are Christians. We don’t shine brightly to others and we won’t light the path that leads to Christ. And essentially, we could cause others to fail, simply by not being the light that they need in their life when in great need, or when things are darkest.

What causes Misalignment?

Bumps on the road, accidents, wear and tear, sudden sharp breaking.. sounds similar to misalignment in life with God. Every bump in the road, every time we have a mishap or fall short, sudden stoppages when things are not going according to OUR plan can all lead to to our Misalignment with God.

And as I was looking for someone to blame on Friday for me failing the MOT, it wasn’t the mechanic, or the guy at the test centre, it wasn’t even my brother who accidentally reversed into my bumper It was me, my responsibility to keep my car in check and keep it fit for road use.

How often I look for excuses and things to blame when my life with Christ is off course. It’s the circumstances, it’s the problems, or the people, or the church, or pastor, or a million other excuses. When the bottom line is.. the responsibility lies with me, and me alone, to keep my life aligned with the teaching of Christ. its my responibility to read the word and attented church and check in with my friends for accountability. to be honest and vunerable and listen to wise counsel when they lovingly correct me.

So there you go… Is it time for your spiritual MOT with God?

Become intimate with him in whatever you do, and he will lead you wherever you go.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3:6‬ ‭TPT‬‬

But you must remain faithful to the things you have been taught. You know they are true, for you know you can trust those who taught you. You have been taught the holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work.”
‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭3:14-17‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Ants in your pants

Have you ants in your pants? This is a question I was often asked when I was a little girl. No it’s not literally, but the question is merely in relation the my life long struggle to be still.

A trait that very much followed me into adulthood. I am very busy active person. I am sure anyone who knows me, or knows my lifestyle would agree.

It’s a rare thing to find me lazing about the house. I don’t watch tv. I haven’t even had a tv attached to an aerial for about five years now. I have to be intentional about having movie nights on the sofa with my kids as to spend a bit of chill time with them. A duvet day, staying in doors all day in-front of the tv is my idea of hell. Besides the fact I’d be ridiculously restless, an even bigger problem would be I can’t seem to watch tv without eating at the same time, so that would lead to all sorts of bother.

Please don’t misunderstand what I’m staying, if you can, and you love a life in the your pj’s in front of the telly, there is no judgement. In fact, I’m quite jealous of people who can easily switch to relaxation mode. I struggle to do so. Even after a not so busy day, when I go to bed it takes my brain a lot of convincing to switch off . Often not helped by late night scrolls on social media, the black hole, eh? One sure fire way to waste an hour..

Busy for me doesn’t always equal productive. I can be very busy and still not get a lot done in a day. In fact, I hold a gold medal in procrastination, just my procrastinating involves being busy with other stuff than the things I actually need to do and, with all this in mind, I still manage to convince myself some days that the reason I didn’t spend some intentional time with God is because I was too busy all day.

During the week I was listening to a random playlist on Spotify when a playlist of newly released music was suggested. I clicked on it, curious to hear Adele’s new song. I quickly flicked (it’s not for me , I definitely had Adele seasons, but thankful to not be in a season where I need Adele music to feed my weary soul), but after Adele came Diana Ross, Westlife, Steps, TEXAS, flipping love Texas. I looked down at the playlist description to make sure I had read the part about it being brand new music, it was!! Clearly, all the lockdown stillness had given these older artists the time and inspiration to write new music.

As I mused over this thought, I got a little Holy Spirit nudge to fully acknowledge the importance of stillness. Yes, yes, my heart murmured back at the sense of the need to acknowledge this. I know, I know, be still and know, and know that God created me as a busy, active, creative person and he loves me just as I am. SO! I’m doing just fine.

Now, IF the Holy Spirit had a face, I’m pretty sure an eyebrow would have been cocked at my attempt to justify my busyness. I can just picture the three of them.. (shack style) rolling around laughing at me. Did she really just try to convince her creator the reason she doesn’t give him enough attention was because he made her that way?! LOL!

““Be still, and know that I am God! I will be honored by every nation. I will be honored throughout the world.””
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭46:10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I did a little research on the whole be still thing and, well it’s a bit of a mind boggle. There is a lot to learn on this matter, to be honest because as quite often Hebrew has several different words that translate into one English phase.

Please go easy on me as I try my best to explain this in the best way I can. Every time we see the words BE Still in our English Bible, it’s not always the same Hebrew word translated.. ya get it??

I’m not even going to pretend to understand Hebrew, although I would love an understanding because I love the Bible, but I really wanted to share this because it’s way, way too cool to leave out of this blog.. Hebrew has lots of different words that translate into English, be still, and the meaning of these different words varies. Silent, unable to speak, quiet, rest, to be still, to leave alone. Then the mind is completely blown when I learn the Greek translation is CEASEFIRE, literally to stop what you are doing immediately. Down tools.

I’m far from a scholar, so I probably shouldn’t talk any more in an area that I’m pretty clueless (Greek & Hebrew), however, I am not clueless in the area of having a relationship with my Heavenly Father and what I do know is this, unless we are intentional in stopping what we are doing, unless we are willing to be silent and listen, and unless we are willing to be still and rest in his presence, it is impossible to keep a healthy relationship and strong bond with God.

Yes, God will be with you in all your busyness but, this I’m sure of after my trip down the rabbit hole of Greek and Hebrew translation, what God wants to impress in our hearts through his word is the importance of being still and spending time in silent stillness with him.

Easier said than done.. I know. As soon as I sit down with God I can think of a million things I should be doing instead. I will remember the name of that person I’d forgotten three days ago. Suddenly I need to pay a bill or text someone. Maybe some vital biblical research will come to mind, a Bible verse I need to read a commentary on. Surely that’s allowed because well, it’s a good thing, right?

Yes it is, but I’m not talking about time studying the Bible. Although an equally essential part of getting to know God, which is also a crucial part of relationship with God, but I’m talking about the being silent, being still, stopping all that your doing to be with God.

It’s hard but it’s worth it. It requires discipline. Just like meeting up to spend time with anyone else would be done by arrangement, you need to arrange a time with God. His flexibility is unreal, he can be there as early or late as you need. So set your alarm in the morning 10/ 20 minutes earl, which means going to bed 10/ 20 minutes earlier too.

No phones. It’s rude to sit on a coffee date with your chum and have your phone distracting you. So God is no different. Put your phone away, it will not kill you. I promise.

Switch off your mind… mmmm this is the hardest of all I think. I learnt this little trick a while back. Every time a distracting thought comes into your mind, say to it, go away I’m spending time with my Heavenly Father. Yup, it sounds a bit cringe! but it actually works.

Has anyone ever asked you to meet, but you don’t know why, and your question is so what did you want to talk about? Well, it’s ok to ask God that too. What do you want to talk to me about today? What would you like to tell me today? Perfectly normal, and God would be delighted to know you wanted to hear what he had to say.

Last one. Shut up and listen … shut up isn’t a very nice thing to say but sometimes it’s important. I have to try super hard sometimes not to fill silence with words or my sound. Silence makes me feel awkward. Fight the urge to fill the silence, but in these super duper special times, when you listen to God.. you need to zip it!

I know that I know, if you are even intentional about this, just even once in the next week, you will reap the benefits and you will want to do it more and more, and it becomes less of a discipline and more of a priority in your life! Have fun.

You can be sure of this: The Lord set apart the godly for himself. The Lord will answer when I call to him.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭4:3‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Loves T x

Pick up, Dust off and START again

On Wednesday evening I was teaching my middle son Ethan how to make sausage rolls; they are his favourite and he is a budding baker, so it seemed a given he should learn to make them. They were a hit! Sausage rolls made and baking trays emptied, as I was putting some ingredients back in the cupboard, I noticed a jar of cashew butter I had bought some time ago with great intentions of stuffing dates as healthy snack/sweet alternatives. I knew if it was still in date, it would be a short date. So I turned, flipped on the oven again, and quickly searched on my phone for Cashew Butter Cookies. Bingo! an egg and one cup of granulated sugar.

I felt myself cringe a little, knowing fine well that on Monday morning I had sworn myself off all sugary snacks in a bid to shift middle belly jelly by Christmas. Still I continued with the recipe, made the cookies, baked the cookies, and then sampled the cookies… to my surprise they were delicious. Well, let’s face it, you could probably put a cup of sugar in marmite and it would taste good. So, after a small sample, I contented myself they were a good job and went off to watch a little tv before bed.

A short time later, I came back in to the kitchen to do the bedtime lockup, light switch off routine. I lifted tea towels to lay over the two trays of not yet cooled baking and, as I did my limbs took on a life of their own, my hand slipped down and took grip of the halved sample cookie and before I knew it my arm had joined forces with its out of control counterpart and lifted the sugary treat to my lips, then my already poorly controlled mouth eagerly received the sugar filled delight. Damn! I thought as I took the last bite of the humongous, but very delicious, treat. Damn you, Terri! You fool, I thought to myself as I started toward the stairs for bed. Bad enough I had caved in to my temptation, but even worse, late at night. Feeling defeated, as I slowly ascended the stairs to bed, I heard myself chanting inwardly, pick up, dust off and start again. On the fourth chant, as I entered my bedroom, I was aware it didn’t seem to be me chanting. Or I wasn’t chanting alone. With an unasked question, I wondered was this chant Spirited on, and quickly became aware that God wanted to say something about the tragic event that had just unfolded. As I flopped into bed on my final chant, I finally questioned, what are you saying God?

The download began….

I am going to try my very best to describe to the best of my limited ability what God then spoke to my heart in the matter of a few minutes. It felt like we had a three hour conversation, rich with insight and Godly wisdom. It went like this, it was a slip up, it’s not ruined, you can start fresh tomorrow. God wasn’t merely ministering to my heart about the cookie incident, but to my ever occurring slip ups in life on my journey to becoming the best version of Terri, the God created, God designed, uniquely wonderfully made version of Me.

In the moments that followed, God allowed my heart to understand how this was a well practised pattern in my life which had such severe consequences; when I slip up, I slip into defeated mode and quite often immediately partner with defeat. It made sense, I can absolutely recognise that fateful characteristic in myself, and what God lay on my heart was a resounding, but gentle, STOP DOING IT! Not the stop doing it as in the slip ups, although that would be the end goal. STOP writing yourself off in these situations. I understood clearly what God was speaking to me.

My heart whispered a sorry and a thankful acknowledgement of this character flaw God had so gently pointed out in a bid to correct me and strengthen me. My heart warmed in acknowledgment of the fact that slip ups, big or small, God just wanted me to Pick myself up, Dust myself off and Start again. Yes, yes there would be some natural consequences, and there are situations I should definitely avoid so as not to fall in to temptation, but even then, when I did like baking the darn cookies, he still wanted me to start again.

With this comes the knowledge of God’s grace to allow me the privilege of picking up and dusting off and starting again. I do not in anyway undermine the enormity of the gift of God’s grace, forgiveness and infinite unfailing love. In no way do I think this is a get out of jail free card. But neither is it a gift that still needs paid for. Jesus has already picked up the cheque and it would be a real tragedy for us to insist on trying to pay a debt he has already cleared for us.

I feel like there is easily a thousand examples from my own life I could lay out in this blog, but I feel prompted to leave it here with you the reader, to allow God to directly minister to your heart. In what particular area may you be partnering with the spirit of defeat?

Me and my defeated attitude… It may well be coming from years of making excuses as to why my homework isn’t being handed in. but I have become an expert in giving excuses for not doing better, trying again. I am a veteran of excuses. I can’t do it, I’m past help, I just can’t help myself, it’s in my nature, it’s just the way I am!!

What I will say is this, in the time I have been in this relationship with God, there have been many many ups and downs, where there was doubt and fear and worry and regret. In real heart wrenching trauma, obstacles ridiculously huge I thought I would never ever overcome. When battles in the spirit that left me floored. The situations every fibre in my body made me want to run and hide from. Addictions, life patterns to overcome, mindsets needed changed and deeply embedded unforgiveness that needed addressed. And with every single one of them, I can acknowledge I have been the main opposer to working through these. Not that nasty wicked worm the enemy, not God, not the situation, but ME!

And God is saying NO! No more excuses! No, that is not just the way you are… that is not just your human nature because you don’t have a human nature, you have a God nature now…

You can and you will, but you NEED to pick up, dust off and start again. Every time, in every situation, I want you to dust off that failure, and I want you to stop agreeing with defeat, I want you to start again. Even if it feels pointless, even if you feel stupid, even if you don’t really want to, I want you to start again AND I want you ask me to do it with you. Even in the areas like healthy eating, I want to be in everything with you..

My great friend has this saying… if you get a flat tyre, you don’t go out to your car and let the other three tyres down do you?? This perfectly describes what we do when we come into agreement with defeat and give up on the best version of ourselves.

We can and we will…

So go get the pump out and pump up that flat tyre today, and to continue this great analogy. give God the keys.

loves T x

““My old identity has been co-crucified with Messiah and no longer lives; for the nails of his cross crucified me with him. And now the essence of this new life is no longer mine, for the Anointed One lives his life through me—we live in union as one! My new life is empowered by the faith of the Son of God who loves me so much that he gave himself for me, and dispenses his life into mine! “So that is why I don’t view God’s grace as something minor or peripheral. For if keeping the law could release God’s righteousness to us, the Anointed One would have died for nothing.””

Galatians 2:20-21 TPT

Trigger Happy

Who remembers the guy with the big phone? He certainly knew how to trigger people.

I’ve been thinking all week how to sugar coat what I want to write about and, well I decided, I cant! So why try?! I’m just going to dive right in and say it…


They are everywhere…

Even Christian, Jesus followers, Bible believers, saved, Holy rollers, church goers or whatever title you put on yourself concerning your relationship with Jesus, even We who hang with the HS are STILL gonna have encounters with people in life who push our buttons. Or, as my son asked me last week, Mum are your triggered!? Dramatic pause … The answer was yes BTW, cos I’m down with the kidz, ya know!

Even the most radically transformed, patient, understanding people, most regular church goers are still going to get triggered by someone.

Let’s face it, even in today’s ever ‘accommodating’ culture, it is still very much frowned upon to punch people, especially if you’re one of those church folk who are meant to know better. Contrary to popular belief, we are not radically transformed and immune to negative emotional reactions at conversion.

It is expected that one overflowing with joy and love and peace would never have an emotional reaction to an adverse person or situation…

Well, popular belief is wrong, because we do! Even after lots of time spent, seeking direction, learning management techniques, putting boundaries in place, eliminating certain factors from my life, there are still people that push the ugly button. On days gone by where I might have ended up in a lot more bother due to my reactions to these people, these days the consequences to my reactions are maybe not as severe but It still needs work… (heart still under construction)

Anyone that knows me, knows I love to keep it real. Im all about authenticity. I really struggle to fake it and although usually when I manage to control my mouth not to say it, my face will do the talking for me, so quite often I don’t get the opportunity to fake it. But why would I want to? Faking it will break it! Last week in my blog I said don’t fake it, fix it. And I really feel that’s a word in this season.

Because faking it or pretending to be the person the Bible says we ought to be is not going to achieve anything because God can not have a relationship with the fake me.

So we can’t punch these difficult people and screaming hatred and anger isn’t really emanating the Holy Spirit, so where does this leave us?

I recently read the book The Hiding Place, a story on the remarkable life of Corrie Ten Boom. As much as it would be so very wrong of me to say I related to her, I found myself smiling at parts in understanding, to her heart for justice and her fiery righteous anger, especially in comparison to her gentle sister, Betsy, who seemed much more at ease and unmoved by life’s harsh reality and difficult people. Betsy seemed to ooze God’s divine Grace and compassion for others while Corrie’s outward grace took some summoning up.

I found this a part I could really relate to… when I dare to glance sideward at my Christian sisters who seem to have readily available compassion, grace and tolerance for the most difficult people, and can instantly and with conviction quote, I forgive because God forgive my many sins… (this is true but it just doesn’t seem to come as quickly to me).

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

Colossians 3:13 NLT

And here is where Corrie gives me a Gold standard training for Christian living. Through many examples throughout the story it was her constant prayer. Nothing fancy or particularly well articulated about her prayers; they were simple, heartfelt cries for help.

Lord God I don’t know how, God help me learn to love, God teach me how to forgive. Every time Corrie couldn’t naturally do what the Bible “God’s word” asked of her, she prayed a very simple prayer, God I don’t know how, God will you teach me how…

I believe this is a life line for a lot of people, like myself, because pretending to love people who grind your gears is just going to cause an inner battle of bitterness that will eventually drive a wedge in your heart between you and God, and cause a divide. Or, it could cause a scene… and then you come off looking and feeling like the bad guy. The hot head, the lack of self control. Bad Christian eye roll!!

So for our theme of not faking it but fixing it... here are some tips from the wonderful Corrie, and myself, I guess.


Lord I don’t know how

Lord can you teach me how to love / forgive this person

Lord can you change my heart towards this person

Lord can you show me any way I may be at fault here.

Lord give me more patience or understanding for this person

“How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye?”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭7:4‬ ‭NLT‬‬


Remove yourself from their company until your heart has had a little transformation, at least (not always possible in family or work situations).

If it’s a social media feed that’s causing frustration, limit it, or even better delete or unfollow or unfriend, or whatever you need to do.

Boundaries, boundaries boundaries… get them in place, KEEP them in place.

When you find yourself getting to a place of irritation or anger, rather than fueling the irritation and dwelling on the cause with anger in your heart, you could try to replace it with joy. Hang out with people who don’t wind you up, they are your people, Play some music, go for a run, play a game.


Even when irritated, you don’t need to run about and bad mouth the person in question.

DO NOT make stupid statements like they need Jesus in their life because truth is we all do, everyone needs Jesus! so thats a given. ( also run the risk of sounding someway superior and thats never a good look)

And remember … this is about you and your heart changing thats is your main concern, not them. Too many times have I prayed just change them Lord (eyeroll). Yes, that would be be awesome, thank you God. Instead, be more concerned with the condition of your heart than the condition of someone else’s. unless your perfect in which case i assume you are reading this in heaven?!

If Corrie Ten Boom can pray from inside the walls of one of the most horrendous places on earth, God help change my heart. I believe I can muster up the same prayer when some entitled princess gets in my face, you know what I mean??

When you continue to invite God into a situation to minister to some area you struggle with. It will eventually become easier to manage. It may not happen automatically or over night. It may require a little effort on your part. But you will definitely be better off with God in the struggle than him left out of your struggle.

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:31-32‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Change them Lord, yes, but first help me, show me how, teach me, give me peace, increase my patience, give more self control. They are as loved by you as I am. Let me see them the way you do….

Over and out! Loves T x

Who let the Fox out?


Well that took a effort… by that I mean getting the dust of my laptop.

I think this post is long long over due. I can only pray it helps someone else today.

Honestly I had started to think that maybe God had called me to this writing malarkey and then taken it from me again because I didn’t live up to the mark or some lack of spiritual development or maybe i was just darn right ungrateful for my blessings.

See the rubbish I talk myself in and out of on a daily basis is ridiculous !

So firstly if you have similar kinda thoughts one you are not alone. Two they are probably not from God. And the Bible tells us to fix our thoughts on those above right??

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:8‬ ‭NLT‬‬

So back to my update. Last July as many of you will know, I packed up my life as I knew it and moved towns.. not a million miles in fact probably only 30 or so miles but my life took a complete overhaul. Literally overnight I went from the comfort and safety of my Cosy church community bubble that my whole life revolves around. Where I was well looked after, well loved, cared for provided for, safe, secure. I had valuable trusted friendships, safe godly connection. I knew mums at the school. I knew the people in the shops I visited, I knew the lay of the land all the roads all the shortcuts, I knew where was the best place to get my eyebrows, nails hair done, I knew where I was guaranteed a good meal. I could go out for a walk and almost always bump into someone or have a horn toot and a friendly wave. I was very comfortable.

But really is it any surprise when you beg God your entire Christian life to use, use use you that he wasn’t gonna let you stay in the comfort zone forever??

For about 18 months previous to the move I had felt God stirring my heart and I felt I was being prepared for some kind of change. Then suddenly in the space of a month the decision was made I was moved. Don’t get me wrong I saw God hand move and watched as one miraculous provision after another was made in my favour. People came out of the wood work to bend over backwards to love on me and help me get settled. I was truly amazed at the physical evidence of Gods unfailing love and provision for me and my boys.

Talking of my boys, I had to leave my eldest behind. (Sad face) He had a whole life going on a job he loves, his Dad and well it wasn’t his season to move. So that wasn’t easy but its all part of the journey of stewards to our children, they aren’t ours to control only to steward for a little time and trust God with the rest ( whole other blog) and like I said we are only 30 miles away.

So here I am all moved into my beautiful new home, the kids in their new schools settling down and making friends, thriving like champions, ( p.s kids are so adaptable! We fuss a lot more than necessary in this area as parents don’t we?) I’ve a new job and learning the ropes in my new role. A new church, making new connections. I’ve my parents and siblings round the corner for the first time in my adult life. My boys and I growing our relationships with our family. Which we all love. I was getting regular home cooked meals at the parentals. I had help, when I needed the boys picked up or HOME SCHOOLED ( thank you sister) It was all so blessed and beautiful. It was all positive.

But change is a funny old thing.

Even when life is truly blessed and beautiful and God is revealing more and more of his plan for your life. Change is a process and it can cause all these different emotions that we don’t fully understand. You can feel sad, you can have doubt, fear, it can just leave a big gaping hole you don’t even understand why.

Suddenly I started getting lost, like physically even though I thought I knew the area I grew up in. I started making wrong turns, I didn’t know a good chippy, or what Chinese served the best crispy duck pancakes. Or the best parking spaces, Nobody tooted the horn when I was out walking and I didn’t know the people in the corner shop. Everything required a lot more effort. First world problems Terri eh??

NOT forgetting we are in the middle of a flipping pandemic here also, So absolutely nothing resembles normality and we have social distance and mask wearing making everyone even more distant and unfriendly.

Then I started getting lost mentally. I got sad and lonely and to be honest I probably started distancing myself from God. My sadness caused a lack of interest. I got tired and lazy and uninterested even after witnessing Gods miraculous provision I started to doubt I had made a good move. ( starting to sound like the ungrateful brats In the wilderness moaning about their free cucumbers ) Even though I knew the benefits of my move far outweighed the bad I still questioned what I had done. I saw my old community live on without me through the not so wonderful world of social media and I got jealous. I got envious of relationships, friendship groups bonding and growing with out me. The green eyed goblin appeared she is never ever pretty.

My thoughts became very FAR from those thoughts from above. What went wrong?? Why couldn’t I just be happy and grateful? Embrace this new very evident blessing?! Even my boys had managed a better job than me…

Just another thing I fail at.. as I beat myself up again.

I’m not looking sympathy, I share this because, well….

I don’t think I’m alone. Even if it isn’t a complete overhaul. Maybe its a new…. Baby, Marriage, Ministry, job, house, whatever circumstances have changed.

I want to say. Its ok to feel a bit weird by the whole change thing. Even good decisions can cause sadness. Doesn’t mean you need to go running back to the old. Life doesn’t work in reverse.

But what I would say is acknowledge it! We as in our culture today and especially here in Northern Ireland have an awful habit of putting on a brave face. Don’t dare show emotions that are not fitting with your circumstances. Good vibes only! Live Love laugh.. all good and I absolutely encourage but not at the cost of your soul slowly dying within. Let’s not fake it, Let’s fix it!

I’m not in anyway encouraging a pity party but call it for what it is.. be honest about what this is being sad or missing something doesn’t mean you want it back it just means the missing makes you sad. Thats ok! When you acknowledge that. Then you can ask God for his help with feeling that way.

I read one time about the little foxes that come in the night.

The Bible says this.

“Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!” Song of Songs 2:15 NLT

Those little foxes are maybe the thoughts and feelings in your heart your afraid to acknowledge incase you could sound ungrateful, stupid, silly, spoilt or unchristlike.

But the thing is.. these little foxes are stealing your fruit

But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!”

Galatians 5:22-23 NLT

They come in the night and are kept in the dark usually you don’t notice until you have no fruit left. At all because let’s face it. Who really notices one fruit missing. It not usually until it’s all gone we acknowledge… Hey! where’s my joy at? Why am I angry. Why did I lose my temper? I just can’t help myself, I’ve no patience for that anymore. I just can’t bring myself to love them.. then you know.. the foxes have been and done a number on you!

So this long winded post is simple to say.

Acknowledge it!

Call it out!

Ask God to help you address it

And…., if you are really really brave.. tell your safe friend and let them love on you. While your sad!

Or you could write a blog and let the whole world know…. Kidding It took me a year to fully acknowledge this and there has been plenty of fruit stolen, tears, tantrums, ugly thoughts in that time. However the real awesome thing is because all the good fruit comes from the spirit we can ask for more.

And if you can’t yet put your finger on it! Here’s a little daily prayer, I feel helps keep the foxes at bay.

Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:23-24‬ ‭NLT‬‬